Mrs. Ward’s Waffles and Buttermilk Syrup

The older I get the more convinced I become that breakfast foods make the best dinner. Therefore, WAFFLES. And delicious syrup. My parents always made these waffles from scratch. Apparently my mom got the recipe from a newspaper before any of us can remember. Several years ago my family was introduced to the phenomenon that is buttermilk syrup, and let’s just say we haven’t looked back.

So on days when you need breakfast for dinner—or breakfast for breakfast, or even lunch—try these guys out and tell us what you think!


Doesn’t it look delicious?

Buttermilk Syrup

½ cup butter

1 c. sugar

½ cup buttermilk

½ tsp. baking soda

1 tsp. or more maple flavoring

Mix over medium heat. When it foams up, remove from heat and add maple flavor.


Mrs. Ward’s Waffles

4 eggs, separated

1 Tbsp. Sugar

1 ½ cups flour, stirred and measured

¾ tsp. salt

4 tsp. baking powder

1 ½ cups milk

1/2 cup shortening, melted and cooled

Beat egg yolks. Combine sugar, flour, salt, and baking powder and add to egg yolks alternately with milk. Stir in melted and cooled shortening, and fold in stiffly beaten egg whites. Bake in waffle iron.

—Jennifer Johnson, Stance

A Wonderful Kind of Day: Diverse Parenting in “Arthur”

Do you ever find yourself over-analyzing your favorite shows from childhood? If so, then this post is for you. Today I’ll be looking at the different parenting styles of three of the families in the popular PBS kids’ show “Arthur.”

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

Arthur’s Parents:
As David and Jane Read are the parents of the titular character, they get the most screen time. The Reads don’t have time for archaic gender roles—David is a caterer and Jane is an accountant. Both of them share household tasks and can be seen in different scenes doing dishes together and trading off cooking meals. It doesn’t just fall to Jane to sort out all the problems with the kids; David is just as involved in Arthur and DW’s lives as Jane is. The Reads tuck their children into bed at night and take them on trips every year. They are involved in their kids’ lives without being helicopter parents.

Buster’s Parents:
Buster is the only main character to live in a single-parent household*.There’s even a whole episode devoted to Arthur trying to fix Buster up with an assortment of dads for the Father’s Day Picnic. (I do a write-up of this episode here for anyone interested.) Despite this perceived disadvantage, Buster is as well-adjusted as any of his friends. He and his mom have a close relationship and do everything together. There are some especially interesting episodes when Bitzi (his mom) starts dating and Buster has to come to terms with it. Bitzi talks to him through the whole process and makes sure that he is okay with the way things are developing. At times Buster’s mom comes off as anxious and hovery (especially in “Arthur’s Perfect Christmas”), but Buster realizes that she feels like she has to do everything perfectly since she’s raising him alone. They clearly love each other and are patient with each other in their circumstances.

Francine’s Parents:
You don’t see as much of the Frenskys as you do the Reads or the Baxters, but Francine’s home life is still worth considering. If Francine has a problem, she usually figures it out herself or talks it over with Muffy or Catherine (her older sister). On the rare occasions where she does turn to her parents for help, though, it’s usually her dad she talks to. Francine isn’t as well off as her friends (a sore spot between her and Muffy), but her dad makes sure that she knows that money isn’t as important as family. “What would I do with more money?” he asks. “Could I buy a better family?” Mr. Frenksy’s light-hearted attitude toward his children is one that more people should strive to have.

In sum, this broad sweep of parenting styles and tactics shows that A) there’s no one right way to raise children and B) there are plenty of things to learn from a world where aardvarks, rabbits, and monkeys can be friends.


*I’m counting Prunella and Fern as secondary characters and don’t tell me that Fern’s had a dad this whole time, PBS, the man’s been missing for fifteen seasons you can’t just sneak him into an episode, pretending he was there the whole time, and think I won’t notice.

—Becca Barrus, Stance

Baby Lily’s Family Attributes Call for Help to Deceased Mother’s Love

SPANISH FORK – A mother’s love can be one of the most powerful things in a person’s life, but what about after this life?

Rescuers heard a voice calling for help from an overturned vehicle on the Spanish Fork River on Saturday March 7, but when they approached the SUV they found no one inside who could speak, according to KSL News.

“We’ve gotten together and just talkin’ about it, and all four of us can swear that we heard somebody inside the car saying, ‘Help,'” officer Jared Warner told KSL News. “It didn’t sound like a child’s voice…We’re not exactly sure where that voice came from.”

It was late Friday night as 25-year-old Jenny Groesbeck was returning from a visit to her parents to her home in Springville, Utah. In the car with her was her 18-month-old daughter Lily. Groesbeck was driving on Arrowhead Trail road in Spanish Fork when she crashed her vehicle into the Spanish Fork River. Groesbeck died on the scene but baby Lily remained alive, strapped in her car seat, suspended upside down for nearly 14 hours before a fisherman spotted the car and called 911.

Rescuers dove into chilly waters without hesitation to retrieve Lily. According to CNN News the water was so cold that seven of the men had to be treated for hypothermia after the incident. They say that despite the hypothermia, they would do it again.

“The voice gave the rescuers a surge of adrenaline needed to push the vehicle upright,” Warner said. “The mother was dead. The child was unconscious, but her eyelids were fluttering, and the rescuers knew she was alive.”

Rescuers immediately began performing CPR and rushed her to the hospital. As far as the mysterious voice heard by rescuers goes, there is no real explanation. However, family members say it was Groesbeck looking after her daughter, even from the afterlife.

Jennifer and Lily Groesbeck, picture from here.

Jennifer and Lily Groesbeck, picture from here.

“Jenny Groesbeck loved her daughter so much, that even after being killed in the accident, her concern for her baby called out to the first responders who found her,” family members told Deseret News.

Jill Sanderson, Groesbeck’s sister, told KSL News that Lily is recovering quickly.

“She is doing remarkably well considering the circumstance. The doctors have been hopeful so far,” Sanderson said.

They set up a gofundme account for those who wish to assist in paying for funeral expenses and medical care for Lilly.

Compiled by Allie Hamilton, Stance

Ideas for Family Fun: Ice Cream in a Bag

With the warm weather this spring, a great way to have some fun with your family is to make homemade ice cream together. This activity can be done at any age, but it’s also a little messy, so the best place to do it is outside.

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

For this activity you’ll need gallon zip lock bags and quart zip lock bags. First, put the ice cream mixture in a smaller, quart sized bag and ice and salt in a larger, gallon sized bag (double bagging is a great way to keep these from leaking). For different ice cream mix recipes, click here. Next, place the quart-sized bag inside the gallon bag filled with ice and salt. When you’re placing the smaller bag in the larger one, be careful to make sure that the smaller bag is properly sealed to prevent getting ice and salt into the smaller bag.  Now here’s the fun part: once the smaller ice mix bag is inside the larger ice and salt bag, shake it for ten to fifteen minutes, and watch as the mix turns into ice cream right before your eyes! This is a great activity for kids to see science at its best and parents to spend some quality time with them.

—Rachel Harris, Stance


No One Is Alone: The Implications of Non-biological Family in “Into the Woods”

*This article contains spoilers for the musical “Into the Woods.”

Since I’ve joined the Stance crew, I’ve become hyperaware of family relationships in everything I read and watch. So it’s no surprise that I had family on the brain when I watched the movie version of “Into the Woods” and the stage version at my little brother’s high school.

There are loads of different types of families in “Into the Woods.” There are stepfamilies, absent fathers, adopted children, helicopter parents, ghost parents, infertile couples, bloodthirsty grandmas… Pretty much anything you could ask for. (I could write a whole essay on the relationship between the Witch and Rapunzel alone.)

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

However, what struck me during these most recent viewings (I have seen this musical A LOT OF TIMES) is the non-biological, found family dynamic. By the end of the second act, most of the characters are dead, killed by the giant or by each other, and most of the families have been dissolved. All four surviving main characters have lost someone—the Baker lost his wife, Cinderella lost her husband (and mother too, sort of), Little Red lost her mother and grandmother, and Jack lost his mother. It’s both haunting and beautiful, then, when they sing “No One is Alone,” because at that moment, each of them is probably feeling the loneliest they’ve ever felt.

In the end, the Baker, his son, Cinderella, Little Red, and Jack all decide to live together and try to help each other recover from their trauma. Even though they aren’t related by blood and even though they’ve seen each other at their nastiest (like viciously blaming each other for all the bad things that have happened), they still care about and want to protect each other.

This is family.

Yes, family is the fundamental unit of society, and yes, that is usually referring to biological family, but your non-biological family can be just as important.

Loving your family is wonderful. It can be hard, but in the end, you share blood, so you might as well stick together.

Choosing to love people you’re not obligated to love is scary. They can leave at any time. They might not come from the same background as you, or they might see the world from a completely different perspective. Sometimes it might seem like it’s not worth it. You’re not bound to them, so why bother?

Learning to love people unselfishly is part of why we’re here on this earth. What is more unselfish than seeing someone’s flaws and loving and supporting them anyway? Than sticking around even though you don’t really have to?

Because if everyone you’ve ever known has left you halfway through the woods, finding someone who is on your side is precious and sacred.

No one is alone.

—Becca Barrus, Stance