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By: Kaytee Johnson
Did you know that BYU has held a Passover Seder service every year for over 40 years? And that it’s one of the biggest in the western United States?
Dr. Jeffrey Chadwick (a professor of Religious Education at BYU and the Jerusalem Center) directs the service, which includes a catered meal of unleavened bread, bitter herbs, and other traditional foods. The catering staff is even asked to prepare the meal in a “kosher” style. It is not an exact replica service, but a “simulated” service, as Chadwick calls it, because it is not on the calendar night of Passover and is altered slightly to help the mostly Christian audience appreciate and connect with the service.
Why attend such an event? Gaining familiarity with and appreciation for people of other nations and faiths is an excellent experience for anyone. Further, this service may have implications in your own life and religion. Church manuals describe the Passover saying, “In addition to reminding Israel that God had protected them from the plague of death and delivered them from the Egyptians, the Passover also symbolized an important future event—The atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ, the Lamb of God, which delivers us from sin and death.” There are impactful symbols in the story and service that have deep meaning for Christians. These symbols include:
a first-born male lamb without blemish the Savior
the blood of the lamb that saves them from death Christ’s shed blood that cleanses & saves the faithful
the removal of leaven removal of sin through repentance
eating in haste responding eagerly to the deliverance the Savior offers
Speaking of this symbolism, Chadwick says, “Jesus was taking the Passover and using it for His own specific purposes.” He explained that Christ reminded His Jewish Apostles to remember the Passover Lamb—His sacrifice of body and blood—every time they ate the unleavened bread. “They would have understood that. Because we in the Christian community [often] don’t know very much about Judaism … we miss that symbolism. But it is there.”
Further, our sacrament meeting services continue as a type of “Passover” for us. Elder Howard W. Hunter said that just as the Passover was a covenant of protection for ancient Israel, the sacrament is a “new covenant of safety” for us (in Conference Report, Apr. 1974, 24; or Ensign, May 1974, 18).
Clearly, this is a remarkable event and is sure to be influential for anyone that attends. BYU’s service has attracted much attention in the last 4 years and was even mentioned in The Times of Israel.
Take a look at the information below and see if you can make it to a service this year!
- Date: Fridays, March 15, March 22, and March 29, 2019
- Time: Begins 6:00 p.m. (please arrive early)
- Location: 3228 Wilkinson Student Center
- Tickets: BYU students, faculty, and staff: $20 | General public: $30
- The dinner lasts approximately 3 hours.
- Attendees wear Sunday dress.
- This service is not recommended for children under 12 years of age.
- Dining service can accommodate most dietary restrictions.
For more information, or to purchase tickets for this year’s services, visit:
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You know the drill. You’ve just been asked out by someone that you don’t really know; and frankly, you’re not interested. So, what do you say? Dare you say, “no”?
Disclaimer: I realize that not everyone adheres to the trends that I’ll discuss in this article and want only to call attention to a trend that is quite prevalent throughout what I’ve seen of the BYU cultural bubble. I’ll also be speaking from a feminine perspective, but I believe that the exact same phenomenon exists on all ends of the romantic spectrum.
Growing up on the East Coast, I was always taught that honesty is the best policy. If someone isn’t interested in something (anything—not just a potential partner), it’s best to just say so. This way no one is confused, and everyone knows what’s going on in the other’s head. There are no strange mind games to work through.
When I started attending BYU in the fall of 2015, I found myself immersed in a strange culture of “yes.” My beloved “no” was practically a social taboo.
“You have to give him at least one chance,” I was taught and re-taught by friends and classmates. “You don’t really know until the second or third date if you like him or not! Don’t be judgmental. You have to get to know him! Everyone is awkward on the first date!”
“Okay,” I thought. “I guess that’s how things work around here. Free dinner for me!”
So I began to say “yes.” Yes to the countless random boys who asked me out at the library. Yes to the other random friends of friends that found me on Instagram. Yes to the random guy who asked me out as I was sitting on a bench in the entryway of DI on my first week back to school after my mission. And where did all of these yesses get me? Did all of my “yesses” make anyone happier? Did they benefit me or the guys that asked me out? No, they didn’t. Because here’s the thing—call me judgmental, but I think that many of us know within a few moments whether we are or are not attracted to a potential partner. And if we aren’t attracted to him now, will we ever be attracted to him later? Chew on it. I say we won’t be.
My friends from freshman year weren’t wrong. People are awkward on the first date, and you shouldn’t be judgmental. I think that the second and third dates are fundamental if you’re on the fence about a guy. That said, there’s something to be said for recognizing and admitting when you’re simply not attracted to a person—unattracted, I might say. Plenty of guys that I’m simply not at all attracted to have asked me on dates, and I’ve said “yes” simply because of the social pressure. On each of these dates, I ended up doing nothing but waste the boys’ time money on a date that I knew would never go anywhere. I’ve tried several times to logic myself into liking boys because I’ve become so terrified of being judgmental that I ignore the basic laws of human attraction. And it’s never once worked out well.
Obviously, we have to say “yes” sometimes. If not, no one would ever find their happy ending and humanity would probably go extinct. That said, I believe that it’s perfectly acceptable—wise, even—to say “no” when we know fairly well that we simply are not attracted to the opposite party. Save the guy his money and save yourself the emotional trauma of ghosting him. We all know that ghosting is terrible anyway, but how else do we get rid of these dates that we were never interested in to begin with?
Every single girl is not meant for every single guy, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I love and appreciate the loving and open culture here at BYU that encourages us to get out of our bubbles and meet new people. That said, I hope that when we accept dates, we do so because of a genuine interest in a person—not because of a derogatory, destructive social stigma.
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“I’ll come play with you really soon!”
Yeah, we’ve heard that one before.
I’m currently studying the English language in one of my classes, and we discussed a property of language known as cultural transmission. This means you learn and define words as you hear them; language is taught culturally. Well, the example my professor described for this principle is the word soon. Its original meaning was “without delay, forthwith, straightway,” whereas it has come to mean, in layman’s terms, “relatively quickly but not right now.” If it’s true that language is learned based on how it is heard being used, can’t you see how easily this shift in meaning could have occurred? One generation of parents uses the word “soon” to describe when they will play with their kids or when their next trip to Disneyland will be, and just like that the word the child learned has a different meaning than the one the parents thought they were using.
This is just one rather nerdy, but kind of fun, example of the influence the words you say have on those around you, especially in the case of your children. I knew a mother who over and over again, when talking about hard times or difficult situations, would say, “Yeah, it’s tricky!” She said this to her children and everyone who knew her when talking about problems. I loved it! For this mother, and the children she taught, nothing was ever so hard that it was impossible! It was only “tricky.” Tricks can be solved. Things that are “tricky” will go away and get better. I think this wonderful woman taught her children and all of us a thing or two about trials, just by using that one little word “tricky” in place of so many others she could have used.
As in every aspect of parenting, there’s not just one right way to speak to your children. There’s not a set vocabulary for good parents and bad ones. Just pay a little bit of attention to the things you say! Are you using words in a way that could distort their meaning for your children? Are you using words that teach your children something about the way you view the world? Your actions might speak louder than your words do, but your words still speak! You can use words many ways to communicate all those things you so desire your children to know.
Here’s a fun word to try (and to teach your kiddos) for when you don’t have the words!
Ineffable: too great for words; transcending expression
 “soon, adv.” OED Online, Oxford University Press, July 2018, www.oed.com/view/Entry/184685. Accessed 15 November 2018.
 “ineffable, adj. and n.” OED Online, Oxford University Press, July 2018, www.oed.com/view/Entry/94904. Accessed 15 November 2018.
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