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Adaptive Aquatics: A Fun Way to Serve

by Jaden Anderson 

Looking for a new and unique way to serve right here on the BYU campus? How does splashing around in the pool and singing Disney music with goggle-eyed kids sound? Well, that’s what you’ll find every Thursday and Friday morning from 11am to 11:45am at the Richards Building pool. Here, student volunteers can come spend some quality time with local special education children in an interactive program called Adaptive Aquatics.

Adaptive Aquatics is a chance for disabled children in nearby schools to swim and receive some much-needed one-on-one time with volunteer BYU students each week. Students can help children develop their cognitive, motor, and social skills. There are also gym activities available for those kids who cannot swim or would rather not. The children come from Alpine, Orem, and other elementary schools throughout Utah County. They each have disabilities ranging from learning and speech impediments to Cerebral Palsy and Down syndrome.

Many BYU students have become involved with the program through Y Serve and report that they love the time they’re able to spend with the kids. According to the directors of the program, an average of 80 students with disabilities and 70 BYU students come to swim each Thursday and Friday. The directors estimate that around 300 or 400 volunteers come throughout the semester.

If this sounds like something you’d love to participate in for just one hour every Thursday or Friday for a semester, email with your name and student ID for an Honor Code check. To get a glimpse of what Adaptive Aquatics is like, check out the video below or visit


Cornbelly’s Corn Maze and Pumpkin Fest—A Traditional Fall Activity for Everyone!

by Danielle Cronquist

Enjoy classic fall activities and head up to Thanksgiving Point’s Cornbelly’s Corn Maze and Pumpkin Fest, open from October 5th to November 3rd. A perfect outing for families, couples, or even a group of friends. You can get lost in the corn maze, let the little ones navigate their way through the kiddie maze, or for thrill seekers, venture into the haunted maze (age 12+). But you don’t have to spend your whole time wandering through mazes; there are tons of other fall activities to enjoy when there. . .

-pick out the perfect pumpkin for carving

-hang out around one of the campfires

-take a ride on the cow train

-leap around on the “jumping pillow”

-watch some pig races

-slide down “Cornbelly Mountain”

-and so many more!

Here are a few tips and tricks for having the best time possible when there:

1. Buy your tickets ahead of time or go on a weekday to save some money!

2. Check out the “activity age gauge” on the website beforehand to find out which activities would be best for you and your group.

3. Bring your camera for some fun picture opportunities with face-cutouts, in the pumpkin patches, and in the mazes.

4. Wear closed-toed shoes and bring a jacket. The walkways there are not paved, and we are moving into some chillier weather this month, so you want to be comfortable.

5. Some of the activities like the zip-line and rock climbing wall will cost you a little, so bring some extra cash if you want to try these out.

6. Bring snacks if you don’t want to shell out the extra money for food once you are there. Maybe even bring some s’mores supplies for the campfires!

7. The haunted festivities begin at 8 p.m. so if you think you or your kids will get a little freaked out, plan accordingly.


Taking a visit to Cornbelly’s is a perfect way to ring in the fall! Open from October 5th to November 3rd. Monday–Thursday 4–10 p.m.; Friday–Saturday 10 a.m.–11 p.m.; closed Sundays and Halloween.

“30 Strangers” Project Exhibiting at BYU’s Harold B. Lee Library

Justin Hackworth‘s photographic exhibit “30 Strangers: Portraits of Mothers and Daughters” is currently showing at BYU’s Harold B. Lee Library.

The exhibit features photos of thirty mother/daughter pairs, capturing their histories and their stories. The story behind the project is beautifully captured in Kale Fitch’s video below:

The 30 Strangers Project | Justin Hackworth from Kale Fitch on Vimeo.

This Thursday night, October 4, is the special Artist’s Reception. Visitors will have the chance to meet the artist and view the exhibit, as well as listen to entertainment by Cherie Call and short essays about motherhood read by four featured writers (Amy Hackworth, Lisa Clark, CJane Kendrick, and Kacy Faulconer).

This is a great chance to experience wonderful photography and entertainment in celebration of mothers and daughters!

What: “30 Strangers” exhibit—Artist’s Reception
When: Thursday, October 4, 2012, 6–9pm (readings and music at 7:00)
Where: BYU Lee Library, Auditorium Gallery, 1st Floor

Justin Hackworth’s “30 Strangers” exhibit is showing in BYU’s Harold B. Lee Library, Auditorium Gallery, 1st Floor, September 6–October 28, 2012. The exhibit is raising money for the Center for Women and Children in Crisis.

Your Filing System: Making It Personal

by Caitlin Schwanger

Your filing system. It may be a big set of file drawers. It may be a small accordion-style folder. It may not even exist at all. Regardless of what it looks like, how big it is, or how organized it is (*cough cough*), we all know what goes in the files. Birth certificates, social security cards, marriage certificates, insurance policies, and so on.

It all seems so boring and impersonal, but our record-keeping systems are essential. What would happen if you didn’t have those important documents? It is never too early to start working on your record-keeping system.

Create a system that works for you. My husband and I keep our important papers together in an accordion folder. That’s all we need for now (although I’m excited for the day we’ll have an important-looking set of file drawers and color-coded folders). Categorize your documents in a way that’s logical to you, and keep it all in a safe place.

Don’t know what to save? Here is a list of important documents to help you get started:

  • Tax returns for the past seven years
  • Warranties for cars, appliances, tools, etc.
  • Wage or salary pay records for seven years
  • Insurance policies
  • Bank records for the past seven years
  • Medical receipts for seven years
  • Credit card statements for seven years
  • Deeds and titles
  • Stock and bond certificates
  • Debts you owe or are owed (adapted from Israelsen 2011, 51)

Some of us, including me, have some areas to improve in! For example, when you get your bank statement electronically, do you print it out? Start doing that, because they can get harder to access (sometimes even costing you money) as time goes on. Do you keep all your pay stubs? Hold on to those! Why seven years, you ask? That’s in case you ever get audited for taxes.

But this whole record-keeping thing still seems rather boring, cold, and impersonal, right? Think of this as your family’s record-keeping system. There’s more to records than financial statements and birth certificates. What about photos? journals? important letters? Saving personal records is just as essential and important.

Now, I’m not going to lecture on how we’re all supposed to be keeping a journal—I’ll let our consciences do that. I just want to emphasize how important it is to save these other important documents as well.  You will be able to remember exciting family vacations with your photo albums, show your children pictures of great-grandparents they have never met, and share stories from your childhood with your children from your old, chicken-scratchy journals. These things will be important to your children! So do your best to save your records.

Here are some ideas of personal records you might want to start saving:

  • Personal journals
  • Treasured letters (or emails)
  • Certificates of achievement
  • Photo albums
  • Selected examples of children’s artwork or schoolwork
  • Home videos (adapted from Israelsen 2011, 51–52)

(On a side note, having all of your photos saved onto your computer is not good enough. One day, your computer will crash. Don’t lose your photos in that disaster. Save them to a disk, print them out—do something to keep them safe and saved forever.)

So, while you’re setting up your family’s filing system, don’t think of it as just a filing system, but as a record-keeping system. Make it personal!


The lists of items to save came from my workbook for SFL 260: Family Finance. Israelsen, Craig L. 2011. Personal and Family Finance Workbook. 6th ed. Provo, UT: BYU Academic Publishing.

The Stadium Farmers Market—Something for Everyone!

by Alissa Holm

The start of school brings not only students back to the BYU campus, but also many vendors to the annual Farmers Market at LaVell Edwards Stadium.

Every Thursday until October 25, about 25 vendors will fill the south parking lot of the stadium to sell their best fresh fruits and vegetables, crafts, and other local creations. This week, I attended the market and got a taste of the great products our local vendors have to offer.

Walking up and down the row of vendors, I couldn’t help but be impressed by the variety of local goods produced by our fellow Provo citizens. I saw everything from freshly popped kettle corn, to a tabletop football game, to homemade pies, to fresh fruit grown literally just down the road.

A Talk with a Vendor

I took some time during my first visit to speak with Sara Potter, baker and owner of “My Cutie Pies,” a small business that sells personal-sized pies. Sara has mastered the art of pie baking over the last seven years and turned her talent into a small business just over a year ago. She bakes personal-sized pies in flavors such as blueberry banana cream, apple, pumpkin, and raspberry and sells them for $3.50 each week at various farmers markets. Prior to each selling day, she spends a grueling twelve hours baking her pies. Sara says that baking the pies allows her to do what she loves and also to make a little extra money on the side.

Is It for Me?

Curious to see what it takes to become a vendor like Sara, I asked her what it was like to start her own small business. She says her expenses can get pretty high—for pie making, berries are her most expensive ingredients. There are also several startup taxes and fees associated with starting such businesses. But Sara did mention that this type of business might be good for other young married wives and mothers out there—Sara is a former student, but her husband is still in school. If your product is marketable and profitable, you could find yourself bringing in a good amount of money just from selling weekly at the Stadium Farmers Market.

I would highly recommend the Stadium Farmers Market to anyone. The experience is one you won’t regret, and you’ll be surprised with all that it has to offer. Who knows—you might just end up wanting to create your own station!

For More Information:

  • Additional information about becoming a vendor at the Farmers Market can be found here.
  • The vendor application form can be accessed here.
  • Several delicious recipes from the BYU Dining Services demo booth at the Market are listed here. Happy cooking, families!

Photo courtesy of Sara Potter,

A trip down memory lane to the Utah State Fair

by Mandy Teerlink

The whirlwind scent of the fair tickled my six-year-old nose. We walked into a big white tent, and I saw them. The ostriches. They were huge. Their long pink necks stretched high above my head, and their fluffy bodies seemed so soft to the touch. I had never seen an ostrich before. Maybe once at the zoo, from fifty yards away, but never THIS close. I gaped at the gigantic birds, not really comprehending the magnitude of the moment until it was over.

Flash forward about sixteen years to the present day. I’m wandering around with some college friends, and this time we’re at the Utah State Fair in Salt Lake City. But it doesn’t feel the same. All I see is a bunch of farm animals falling asleep on the hay. Then I look more closely at a group of children huddled around a newborn calf. I remember the wonder I felt whenever I got to pet a new animal as a little girl. There was something about touching and smelling and experiencing a new environment that made it all so special.

Children need learning experiences like this in their lives. The State Fair is such an intriguing blend of rides, exhibits, and food. It can provide a great opportunity for children to learn about the world and experience new things.

Some great things to see at the fair are
• Farm animals
• Rides
• Craft exhibits
• Photography exhibits
• Science exhibits
• Booths selling all kinds of wares
• Concerts

Obviously there’s plenty to keep everyone happy. However, you need to be a little savvy in order to see everything worth seeing.

So here are some tips to make your fair experience easier:

1. Go earlier during the day, on a weekday. It’s less busy, and some of the exhibits close early.
2. Look up concerts ahead of time so you know who’s performing when. You might even get to see some bigger names.
3. Bring extra cash for food and tickets so you don’t have to pay a fee or stand in line at the fair ATMs.
4. Bring water with you, I guarantee all the walking will make you thirsty!
5. Bring hand sanitizer. Lots of dirty animals and rides!

Although the Utah State Fair finished up this last weekend, most counties in Utah hold their own fairs. Here’s a list of different fairs for the rest of the year.

Remember, the most important part of going to a fair is having fun and sharing memories!

BYU Bookstore: Taking More Than You Think

This article may seem out of place for a family-focused publication; however, it represents the new direction that Stance is moving. No longer are we merely about families, we are also for families, a publication that discusses a broad spectrum of topics that families, and others, are interested in and can benefit from. Financial issues, as this article highlights, fall squarely in that category. 


by Dustin Schwanger

In the hustle and bustle of the new semester, we are trying to find the quickest and easiest (and cheapest) ways of getting the things we need, especially books. When I was about to start my semesterly ritual of getting my booklist and looking everything up on Amazon or, trying at all costs to avoid the lines and prices at the bookstore, I found that you can buy your books from the bookstore online, and the used prices were even cheaper than the other online sellers. How convenient! So, I ordered the two used books that I needed and was satisfied that I got the best deal—I didn’t even have to pay shipping.

After I ordered the books, I got the usual “we received your order” and the “we processed your order” emails. For some reason I opened both of these emails. I noticed that the first email said that I was charged the used book price, but the second email said that I was charged the new book price. After calling the bookstore to fix the error and being told that it wasn’t a mistake—that the new book was substituted, without my knowing, because there were no used copies—I decided to pick up the books to see whether anyone would tell me, assuming that I didn’t open those emails as most students don’t, that my order had been changed. No one did. I promptly, then, walked to another desk across the hall and returned those books.

There are two major problems with this situation. First, I agreed to pay only the used book price. I didn’t permit them to take anything else out of my bank account. And second, the biggest issue, How many students don’t read the “we processed your order” email and inadvertently buy the new books? How much more money is the bookstore taking from unaware students?

These are the questions I brought up to the bookstore’s customer service. The employee who responded to my email was very gracious and said that from that moment, students would be  notified in both emails that it is possible for a substitution to be made and that “by this Monday [it was Friday, August 15, when he emailed], a student will be notified about the substitution before adding a book to the shopping cart.” I was, again, completely satisfied.

Today, Saturday, August 25, I decided that I would see whether these changes were actually implemented. So, I bought one of the same books that I had previously bought, but no message appeared telling me that a substitution had been made. (This made me worry that my curiosity had just cost me $65.) In both subsequent emails there was a small disclaimer at the bottom of the email saying that there is a possibility that new books could be substituted for used. However, just as before, the first email said that I was charged the used book price and the second, the new book price. The bookstore didn’t follow through with its commitment.

This lack of follow-through still begs the questions, How many students don’t notice that they are actually buying a new book when they were expecting to buy a used one, and how much extra money is the bookstore getting through not explicitly telling students that they are buying new books when they thought they were buying used? If this issue is resolved, I will immediately write another article expressing that fact, but until then, the bookstore should feel the displeasure of the students it is meant to serve through our buying everything we can from other vendors—no matter how inconvenient.


Summer 2012 Issue

The Summer 2012 issue of Stance for the Family is now available! This issue covers important topics in education, relationships, death, and many more. The topics discussed are so important to our families, and the authors have presented the ideas beautifully. We hope you will find the information and inspiration you need to take a stance for your family, and for families everywhere.

The articles in this issue are

– An Unexpected Event
– A Sure Foundation: Coping with Infertility
– Does Father Know Best
– New Infants and Parental Relationships
– Taste the Bitter
– Engaging Family Literacy Practice
– Family Dinner
– My Brother’s Got a Bad Case of the Washingtons

We appreciate the time and effort the authors, editors, and designers have put forth to make this issue possible. We also thank our generous sponsors and donors. This issue is available to download by clicking on the image in the column on the right. To order a print version, please contact the editor at

Happy Independence Day

We would like to wish everyone a happy Independence Day! As well as our parties, fireworks, and family time, let us take time to remember and pray for those who continue to fight for and protect the freedoms that we celebrate today.

Recipes, Vacations, and Advice

Stance is completely changing its style of publication (more about that to come). Because of our change, we are looking for submissions on recipe and vacation ideas, as well as parental advice.

We would like the recipes to be ones that are important to your family and that have a tradition or story associated with them. Please include that tradition or story in your submission. A good example of this is “General Conference Cinnamon Rolls” by Adrienne Anderson. Click here to view the post.

For vacation ideas, we are looking specifically for vacations for young couples who are either just married or who have only a few small children. Because most young couples, especially with small children, don’t have very much money, please submit generally inexpensive ideas. Also, we are looking for relatively novel ideas; we wouldn’t want something like camping up Provo Canyon or something along those lines. If you have any questions, please just email us.

The readership of Stance comprises mainly college students and others usually in their twenties. Because of that, we need all of the insights and special secrets we can get, especially for raising children. If you have one of those parental insights or secrets, please also submit those.

We would like all of these submissions not to exceed 250 words (for recipes, this only pertains to the tradition or story portion). In your submission, please include your name, university (if applicable), and email address. Please send them to, with “Submission” in the subject line.

Thank you very much. We are excited to receive your submissions!

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