Stance: Studies on the Family

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Halloween Cruises!

There are many fun Halloween activities to do in Provo. However, one of the lesser known activities is the Halloween Cruise put on by the CLAS Ropes Course.

cbd0a467-6986-5b97-98b8-8fbac87ce774.imageFor only $8 per person, you can take a 20-minute tour down the Provo River surrounded by Halloween lights and jack-o-lanterns. The river banks are filled with lit pumpkins and Halloween decorations. The captain plays spooky music and tells scary stories, and you even get attacked by pirates on the ride!


The Halloween Cruise runs from October 1-31 every evening from 6:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.

This isn’t just for Halloween, either! They also have a Christmas Cruise that runs from December 1-31 from 6:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.

Here you can float down the river surrounded by lit trees and Christmas decorations.



Santa Claus might even canoe out to visit you!

Click here to get your $1/off per person coupon and take a Halloween (or Christmas) Cruise!

—Jessica Romrell, Editor in Chief, Stance

Allergic Reactions and Anaphylaxis

Anaphylaxis, a life-threatening symptom of severe allergic reactions, can cause shock, difficult breathing, or a sudden drop in blood pressure. Anaphylactic reactions are most common in people with severe food allergies or allergies to bee stings, and in most people it is obvious that anaphylaxis is occurring within minutes of exposure to the allergen.

In the event that you are present when someone is having an anaphylactic reaction, you should do the following:

  • Immediately call 911 or your local emergency services
  • Ask or search the person for an EpiPen
  • If they require help administering the epinephrine, do so. This is done by pressing the EpiPen up against the upper thigh with significant force
  • Have the person lie down on his or her back
  • Do not give him or her anything to eat or drink, as this could cause choking
  • If the person stops breathing, begin CPR with uninterrupted compressions until medical help arrives.

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An antihistamine pill such as Benadryl will not help when treating anaphylaxis. Antihistamine medications usually have a slow release to prevent allergy symptoms, but are insufficient for emergency use.

—Frances Avery, Editor, Stance

A Short Life Lesson from a Short Scripture

jesusMy husband and I made the big decision to take on a new and major responsibility–taking care of a new life. We are starting our family and expecting a little boy in February. This new chapter in our lives has been a constant thrill of joy and gratitude.

Since finding out we were pregnant, my husband and I have been experiencing many life lessons that are preparing us to be better parents. Onepecific lesson came from the scriptures: “We love him, because he first loved us” (Bible: 1 John 4:19).

This scripture is well known among the Christian population. My husband and I are familiar with it as well. However, we are now intimately familiar with this scripture.

The other night, after many disappointing attempts, my husband finally felt our little baby boy move in the womb. This caused my husband to beam with excitement and amazement. Then, he put his head on my belly and said, “Hi Baby, this is Daddy. I just felt you move for the first time. I want you to know that I love you so much already.”

After hearing this declaration of unconditional love from my husband, I contemplated the meaning of his words. We have not met our little boy yet. We are just beginning to feel him move. We haven’t even 100% decided on a name yet! But our hearts are filled with love for this little boy.

Following this train of thought, I found myself hoping that our son will know how much we love him and that our son will love us back. Most people would probably think, “Of course your son will love you! You love him.”

This is similar to our love for God and Jesus Christ: “We love him, because he first loved us.” (Bible: 1 John 4:19, italics added). God and Jesus Christ know each of us extremely well and their unconditional love is beyond comprehension. Because they have such a great love for us, we are filled with love for them.

This short life experience helped me understand, to a very small degree, what it must be like for God and Christ to love us first. We start out our lives with a heavenly family that already loves us and is taking care of us. This pre-developed love helps us to love them. Needless to say, this scripture also reassured me–yes, my son will also love me because I loved him first.

—Lexi Foster, Senior Editor, Stance

Provo Canyon Trail

provo canyonOne of the best-kept secrets of Provo is the beautiful canyon trail that runs all the way down the canyon. In any one of the given parks off of University Avenue (which leads into the canyon), there is access to this trail, which extends all the way through the canyon down to Utah Lake.

This trail is a dream for any marathon trainers, and it’s a beautiful ride for any bikers as well. One of the perks of this trail is that it is entirely paved all the way down. There are signs that divide the trail between pedestrians and bikers to keep people safe, and on a Saturday morning, there are plenty of runners to keep each other company (and make female runners feel more safe).

I tested this trail out just last Saturday and was amazed at this hidden treasure. The trail is set directly in the middle of the canyon, and running through it is like running through an autumn wonderland. It’s right in the middle of all the trees and the sights are just stunning.

Towards the opening of the canyon into Provo, there is a beautiful cliff pass that I ran by as well as a waterfall. If the scenery wasn’t stunning enough, I was very impressed by the accessibility of the trail.

When the canyon opened up, the trail had a very easy left turn allowing runners or bikers to continue into Provo, or to go straight and run down to Utah Lake. If you’re looking for a place to jog, bike, or even just take a nice Sunday walk, this is the place for you!

—Jessica Romrell, Editor in Chief, Stance

Everybody That You Meet Has an Original Point of View: More Parenting in “Arthur”

I had so much fun analyzing parenting styles in “Arthur” last week that I decided to do another cartoon animal related post. Although the Crosswires and the Barneses are a little bit more dysfunctional than the Reads, the Baxters, and the Frenskys, they still pass parenting muster.

The Crosswire family:

The Crosswires are Elwood City’s equivalent of the Rockefellers and they very much fit into the rich parent stereotype. You know the one—whenever their daughter needs quality time, the parents buy her a new toy and leave her with the butler. Mr. Crosswire gets very little screen time and Mrs. Crosswire gets even less. As such, Muffy is quite spoiled and frequently relies on whining and wheedling to get her way, rather than actually thinking about the problem she needs to solve.

However, things aren’t all bad in the Crosswire household. True, Muffy’s mother is rarely seen and when she is she never says anything. She gets a line in the head lice episode where she reminisces on her own experience with lice, but it’s the nanny (who only appears once or twice) who’s actually washing Muffy’s hair. But Bailey, Muffy’s butler/mentor, is a wise character who helps acquaint her with opera and get a book club started. And Mr. Crosswire himself isn’t all that bad. He takes Muffy to the opera and to art exhibits. He also takes over coaching the soccer team when none of the other parents will step up. Mr. Crosswire enables Muffy’s spoiled lifestyle, but he genuinely seems to care about his daughter and just wants what’s best for her.

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

The Barnes family:

Binky is first introduced to the audience as a bully in a gang called the Tough Customers, and his parents are apparently unaware of his bullying tendencies. However, as the series goes on, Binky sheds the stereotype more and more as it’s revealed that he likes ballet and catching butterflies, both hobbies that his parents fully support.

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

Binky, like Buster, seems to be a victim of helicopter parenting—there’s an episode where he finds out that he has a peanut allergy and his mom kicks into High Mom Mode, trying to protect him. As a result, Binky sometimes acts out to assert his own independence. At the end of the aforementioned episode, though, because he tells his mom how he feels, she agrees to be a little less involved and he agrees to check in with her a little more often. The fact that they communicate and continually reassess their standing is the signal of a healthier relationship to come.

Both the Crosswires and the Barnses want what’s best for their kids, but that’s not enough—they have to communicate with them. The best parents tell their kids their reasoning for rules that seem arbitrary, but they also listen to feedback and adjust accordingly.

You don’t have to be perfect to be a good parent. Just listen to your heart*.

*listen to the beat, listen to the rhythm, the rhythm of the street…

—Becca Barrus, Stance

Ideas for family fun: Exotic Food and Fire Stations

This week we have two family fun ideas for you. The first one starts with picking an ethnic restaurant or foreign food that your family hasn’t tried yet. Once you’ve made your selection, look up the country that the food is from in an encyclopedia. Talk about it with your family and look at pictures from the country before you head out to try the food. Make sure to leave a little before the restaurant’s busiest hours so your kids can get the full cultural experience.


Picture from here.

Picture from here.

When it comes to foreign food, both Provo and Orem have lots of options.  For a few ideas, here’s a list of five restaurants:

– Pantrucas (Chilean cuisine, located at 3161 North Canyon Road)

– Se Llama Peru (Food from Peru, located at 368 W Center St)

– Spicy Thai (Thai food located at 3230 N. University Ave.)

– Greek n Go Food Truck (Greek food found at 1429 N 150 E St)

– Bombay House (Indian Cuisine, located at 463 N University Ave)


Picture from here.

Picture from here.

The second idea we have for you today is to take a tour at a fire station. Most fire stations offer tours. This is a great way to teach your family a little more about fire safety and to meet real firefighters.

To set up a tour in Provo, click here. Have a great week and a fun time with your family!

—Rachel Harris, Stance

Pitch Your Tents toward the Temple

In the Book of Mormon, specifically in the Book of Mosiah, we find the inspiring words of King Benjamin. These chapters contain some of the most uplifting discourses recorded in ancient scripture, and it is one that changed lives both then and now. However, there are some verses that I think go unnoticed because they are not actually the words of King Benjamin himself, but actually address what happened preceding his words.

King Benjamin

King Benjamin

In Mosiah chapter 2, verse 5, we read that the people had gathered to hear the words of King Benjamin. It reads, “They pitched their tents round about, every man according to his family.” Here is the first point I would like to make: the people came to listen to their prophet, and they did so together as their families. In our day, especially with General Conference coming up, we can strive to listen to the living prophets with our families.

In the next verse, we find another lesson. Verse 6 states that “they pitched their tents round about the temple, every man having his tent with the door thereof towards the temple . . .” Here we see that they directed themselves toward the House of God. For us, this means that we can always keep our thoughts directed toward God and His Holy House, the temple. Today, temples dot the earth. As we keep our sights set on the temple, and figuratively pitch our tents toward it, we will naturally be led back to God and feel once more of His love.

—Kimball Gardner, Stance

A Wonderful Kind of Day: Diverse Parenting in “Arthur”

Do you ever find yourself over-analyzing your favorite shows from childhood? If so, then this post is for you. Today I’ll be looking at the different parenting styles of three of the families in the popular PBS kids’ show “Arthur.”

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

Arthur’s Parents:
As David and Jane Read are the parents of the titular character, they get the most screen time. The Reads don’t have time for archaic gender roles—David is a caterer and Jane is an accountant. Both of them share household tasks and can be seen in different scenes doing dishes together and trading off cooking meals. It doesn’t just fall to Jane to sort out all the problems with the kids; David is just as involved in Arthur and DW’s lives as Jane is. The Reads tuck their children into bed at night and take them on trips every year. They are involved in their kids’ lives without being helicopter parents.

Buster’s Parents:
Buster is the only main character to live in a single-parent household*.There’s even a whole episode devoted to Arthur trying to fix Buster up with an assortment of dads for the Father’s Day Picnic. (I do a write-up of this episode here for anyone interested.) Despite this perceived disadvantage, Buster is as well-adjusted as any of his friends. He and his mom have a close relationship and do everything together. There are some especially interesting episodes when Bitzi (his mom) starts dating and Buster has to come to terms with it. Bitzi talks to him through the whole process and makes sure that he is okay with the way things are developing. At times Buster’s mom comes off as anxious and hovery (especially in “Arthur’s Perfect Christmas”), but Buster realizes that she feels like she has to do everything perfectly since she’s raising him alone. They clearly love each other and are patient with each other in their circumstances.

Francine’s Parents:
You don’t see as much of the Frenskys as you do the Reads or the Baxters, but Francine’s home life is still worth considering. If Francine has a problem, she usually figures it out herself or talks it over with Muffy or Catherine (her older sister). On the rare occasions where she does turn to her parents for help, though, it’s usually her dad she talks to. Francine isn’t as well off as her friends (a sore spot between her and Muffy), but her dad makes sure that she knows that money isn’t as important as family. “What would I do with more money?” he asks. “Could I buy a better family?” Mr. Frenksy’s light-hearted attitude toward his children is one that more people should strive to have.

In sum, this broad sweep of parenting styles and tactics shows that A) there’s no one right way to raise children and B) there are plenty of things to learn from a world where aardvarks, rabbits, and monkeys can be friends.


*I’m counting Prunella and Fern as secondary characters and don’t tell me that Fern’s had a dad this whole time, PBS, the man’s been missing for fifteen seasons you can’t just sneak him into an episode, pretending he was there the whole time, and think I won’t notice.

—Becca Barrus, Stance

Baby Lily’s Family Attributes Call for Help to Deceased Mother’s Love

SPANISH FORK – A mother’s love can be one of the most powerful things in a person’s life, but what about after this life?

Rescuers heard a voice calling for help from an overturned vehicle on the Spanish Fork River on Saturday March 7, but when they approached the SUV they found no one inside who could speak, according to KSL News.

“We’ve gotten together and just talkin’ about it, and all four of us can swear that we heard somebody inside the car saying, ‘Help,'” officer Jared Warner told KSL News. “It didn’t sound like a child’s voice…We’re not exactly sure where that voice came from.”

It was late Friday night as 25-year-old Jenny Groesbeck was returning from a visit to her parents to her home in Springville, Utah. In the car with her was her 18-month-old daughter Lily. Groesbeck was driving on Arrowhead Trail road in Spanish Fork when she crashed her vehicle into the Spanish Fork River. Groesbeck died on the scene but baby Lily remained alive, strapped in her car seat, suspended upside down for nearly 14 hours before a fisherman spotted the car and called 911.

Rescuers dove into chilly waters without hesitation to retrieve Lily. According to CNN News the water was so cold that seven of the men had to be treated for hypothermia after the incident. They say that despite the hypothermia, they would do it again.

“The voice gave the rescuers a surge of adrenaline needed to push the vehicle upright,” Warner said. “The mother was dead. The child was unconscious, but her eyelids were fluttering, and the rescuers knew she was alive.”

Rescuers immediately began performing CPR and rushed her to the hospital. As far as the mysterious voice heard by rescuers goes, there is no real explanation. However, family members say it was Groesbeck looking after her daughter, even from the afterlife.

Jennifer and Lily Groesbeck, picture from here.

Jennifer and Lily Groesbeck, picture from here.

“Jenny Groesbeck loved her daughter so much, that even after being killed in the accident, her concern for her baby called out to the first responders who found her,” family members told Deseret News.

Jill Sanderson, Groesbeck’s sister, told KSL News that Lily is recovering quickly.

“She is doing remarkably well considering the circumstance. The doctors have been hopeful so far,” Sanderson said.

They set up a gofundme account for those who wish to assist in paying for funeral expenses and medical care for Lilly.

Compiled by Allie Hamilton, Stance

Ideas for Family Fun: Skittle Bowling

Wondering what to do this Friday night? A great way to have fun with your family this week is to play a game called skittle bowling. The logistics are simple: go to your favorite bowling alley and pay for a game (usually around $4 per game for adults and $3 for children under 12 years of age) and make sure to bring a bag of skittles.

Picture from here.

Picture from here.

The rules for skittle bowling are simple. Each time you bowl, you are required to do a funny action. When it’s your turn, grab a skittle. Each skittle color represents a funny action you have to do. For example, if you draw red, then you have to hop once before you toss the bowling ball. Deciding what action each color represents will be up to you and your family, but a suggested list is below:

Red= hop once

Purple= close one eye

Green= spin three times, then grab the bowling ball

Orange= toss the ball granny style

Yellow= do a dance move before you toss the bowling ball

Skittle bowling is a fun way to mix up your evening with your family and have fun together. It’s a great way to enjoy some candy, some bowling, and some quality time with your loved ones.

—Rachel Harris, Stance



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