As a busy student, one of the most common feelings in my life is stress and I’m sure I’m not the only student who feels this way. Each semester, I wonder how I can relieve this stress. I try to prepare myself with some steps […]
When did you finally learn that a “pee-pee” was actually a penis? Or, when did you learn that women have a clitoris and what its true purpose is? Understanding sexuality is extremely important to having healthy sexuality and effective sexual communication throughout life, and especially with your future spouse. When sexual body parts are mislabeled or even excluded from being taught, it can lead children to grow up thinking their sexual organs and abilities are bad or inappropriate to discuss.
Just as talking about sexuality frankly, appropriately, and respectfully with children is important, it is equally important to discuss sexuality in this manner within your romantic relationship. Misconceptions about sex—men always want sex more than women, women don’t enjoy sex as much as men, etc.—can often lead to difficulty talking about each individual’s sexual needs, if they are being fulfilled, and how to better fulfill them.
In order to talk about sexuality, there needs to be trust within the relationship and healthy communication patterns. We must have trust that our partner will accept and understand our concerns or desires. Healthy communication patterns ensure a space to talk freely, where our spouse can understand or ask questions to understand. These emotional securities will open endless gateways to a more fulfilling relationship sexually.
Of course, it’s not all about sex. There is an emotional relationship, mental/intellectual relationship, and spiritual relationship along with the physical/sexual relationship. None of these relationships takes precedence or is more important over another one. They all add to the unity and true fulfillment we can have in our relationships. If the spiritual relationship is lacking attention, then of course give it some extra care. But, if the spiritual relationship is strong and the sexual relationship is lacking, then the sexual relationship needs some focus and investigation to find out why its weak and how to fix it.
There is so much more we could discuss on how to address and care for the sexual aspects of our marriages. These ideas and concepts we have discussed are only grazing the surface of the intricacies that go into the sexual aspects of a marital relationship, but are a wonderful place to start exploring. There are many helpful aids to educate people about this area of our lives. One book, among many, of research on this topic is Sexual Wholeness in Marriage: An LDS Perspective on Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality in our Marriages by Dean M. Busby PhD, Jason S. Carrol PhD, and Chelom Leavitt JD MS. It includes misconceptions about sexuality, common pitfalls, and explores the many parts that go into sexuality and how to integrate sexual wholeness into our lives as well as suggested solutions to help with issues you may be having. This is a beautiful, and fulfilling part of marriage. Don’t let it go unattended.
This place has a ton of character to it. Although I complain about the construction and zero parking and bipolar weather most of the time, it really is a great place to live and explore. There are so many startup companies around here that you can’t ever truly be bored (unless you’re hungry at 11:30 pm on a Friday or Saturday—then you’re in trouble because nothing is open).
There are some real gems in our backyard, and I think it’s important that we give each of them a shoutout. The one that I’m going to focus on today is The Soap Factory!
This place is so much fun. I went on a date here back in 2015 and when I tried to go back later, it was closed! Have no fear, the company only moved to a bigger location, and it’s now on Center Street.
It can be a little tricky to find because it’s on the second floor; it is not a shop that you walk past on a sunny day, but it’s a rare find if you ask me. It’s a pretty cheap date for a really great time. It’s $5 per person (studio fee) and then 5 cents per gram for whatever products you make. (A bar of soap is usually less than $5.) There are literally over 400 shapes, 150+ essential oils, plus colors and paints to create your own healthy, all-natural soap, scrubs, lotion, lip balm, and tons more. This place is full of creativity. You choose the scents/oils you want in your product, the mold/shape of it, and then you paint it to your liking.
I personally think that this a great place for all ages and relationships. A girls’ night, birthday party, couples date, you name it. The first time I went here was on a blind date and *luckily* the date was a smooth one. You can easily strike up a conversation while creating your art, but it also allows you to have silence if 1.You really want to concentrate on your work and 2.The date is struggling.
I highly recommend checking this place out and don’t forget to make a reservation. Just try it—I promise you’ll thank me later.
BY: CARLY CALLISTER
Ingredients Graham cracker crust: 1 1/2 C graham cracker crumbs 1/2 C sugar 6 T melted butter 1 tsp cinnamon Mix graham cracker crumbs, sugar, and cinnamon together. Add in melted butter and mix until mixture is sticky enough to put into a pie plate. […]