Stance: Studies on the Family

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Empowered By His Love

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“How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.” —Sigmund Freud

Think about a time when you knew that you were loved. When someone makes the effort to put you first, you can be sure you are loved. You feel more courage and confident. Maybe someone went to great lengths to let you know that he or she loved you or maybe it was a simple. A touch, a word, a note, a gift, or an act of service. Remember how you felt? Loved!


Did you know there is someone that is ALWAYS willing to go to great lengths to show His love for you?

“Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny,” (“The Family: A Proclamation to The World”).

284339_10150253946073877_7247146_nWe are children of God. “The most powerful Being in the universe is the Father of your spirit. He knows you. He loves you with a perfect love” (“You Matter to Him,” President Dieter F. Uchtdorf). He is willing to put us first EVERY time because He loves us.

Because He loves us He has given us an opportunity to have an earthly experience during which we can learn to be more like Him. Including learning to love through serving and sacrificing.

Here are a few simple ideas to get started:

  • Make someone’s bed
  • Prepare a hot breakfast for someone
  • Write a note of appreciation
  • Hold a door open for someone
  • Offer to share your umbrella
  • Bake your favorite kind of cookies and give them away
  • Sincerely ask how someone is doing, then listen
  • Volunteer at a soup kitchen, shelter, or community center
  • Pray for someone by name
  • Share an inspiring quote
  • Smile



“The Family: A Proclamation to The World” teaches that we are children of Heavenly Parents and that we have the potential to become like Them. Start today. Start small. Empower someone with confidence by showing them how much you love them.

—Karee Brown, Stance

For more ideas of showing others your love for them check out this 14-day challenge.

Take the time to reflect on how you can further show your love and listen a few suggestions by Elder Holland in “How Do I Love Thee?”

Provo City Center Temple


If you’re in the Provo area, the place to see these days seems to be the new Provo City Center temple.

Constructed from the structure of the old tabernacle, the City Center temple holds an incredible wealth of history and seems to have the prospect of an incredible future ahead of it. A future that includes at least a million tickets sold for the Open House being held now until March 5, 2016.

0 (1)The Open House allows for the general public to enter the temple and have a look around of its gorgeous interior. It is also an opportunity to gain insight into the beliefs of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (better known as Mormons). People of all faiths are invited and welcome to attend. Once the Open House is over, the building will only be open to those within the church who have received special permission through an interview process.

0 (2)I had the opportunity last week to take a special tour of the temple that allowed me to see one of the sealing rooms (where marriages take place) as well as the bridal room (where brides get ready for the marriage ceremony). While it was an incredible experience, my view of the rest of the temple was limited as we walked to these two rooms. I had an itch to see more.

The Open House not only allows for you to see the gorgeous inside of the temple before it is closed to the general public, but there is also a section of the tour that gives special insight into the incredible history of the tabernacle/temple.
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The temple’s Open House started on January 15, 2016 and will end March 5, 2016. Tickets are going fast, so make your reservations here today.

—Jazmin Cybulski, Stance

Labor and Delivery Hospital Tour

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“Visiting the place where you’re planning to give birth well before you deliver can help relieve some pre-birth anxiety and make your birthing more enjoyable.” —What to Expect

I have to agree with the above quote. My husband and I finally took our hospital tour a few weeks ago. I was 36 weeks pregnant. Pregnancy experts recommend taking the tour between week 30 and week 34 but better late than never, right?

With this being my first time being pregnant, I have had an understandable amount of hesitation and nerves in regards to labor. However, attending a hospital tour brought me a lot of peace of mind and reassurance. I was able to ask certain questions I had been wondering about and received answers from an experienced labor and delivery nurse. I loved the tour.

Also, I wanted some specific things with labor, such as keeping the baby in my room, having alone time with the baby after birth, and breastfeeding right away instead of bottle-feeding. Taking the tour showed me that the hospital actually suggested those procedures instead of other methods, such as taking the baby out of the room. Knowing the hospital’s typical methods greatly reassured me and helped me become more excited for delivery day (“D-Day”).

There are many benefits to hospital tours! Whether you are an expecting mom, expecting dad, or just a curious daydreamer, I highly recommend reading this article by What To Expect:

—Lexi Foster

All About Family



Gordon B. Hinckley presented The Family: A Proclamation to the World over twenty years ago. While members of the Church thought it was an inspired document then it has only become more needed to guide to the members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as the world’s view of the family is changing.

I grew up learning about how the family is ordained of God and how it is central to the creator’s plan of happiness. My mom, like many mothers, taught me about the role of being a daughter and taught me skills to be a wife and mother later. Here I am, without children and single, but it doesn’t mean the principles of the proclamation don’t apply to me.

“Life rarely goes exactly according to plan for anyone,” said Bonnie Oscarson in a recent talk in General Conference, “and we are very aware that not all [men and] women are experiencing what the proclamation describes.”

We are all at 281804_10150253954418877_5965564_ndifferent points in our lives and yet the proclamation is still applicable to each of us. You may be single like me, a grandparent, a single parent, or happily married with children. No matter where we are or what our current family setting looks like, we have been told that the doctrine and principles taught in the proclamation apply to each of us. You are part of a family. God’s family. And you have a role and a responsibility in that family.

My weekly posts will review the proclamation in parts and give suggestions of how we can apply it to our lives at different points of our lives. These will just be suggestions because how you use the guide of the proclamation is personal to each person and sensitive to each unique situation, but hopefully it will help create a sense of urgency in learning the doctrines and applying the principles. So that each of us can step   up and become a defender of the family.

—Karee Brown, Stance


13 Organizing Ideas

Are you in the process of planning your child’s nursery? Maybe you are just trying to figure out the final details? Or maybe you don’t know what to do with the awkward closet or some bookcases you love? Either way, here are some helpful organizing ideas found on Pinterest. These ideas can also be changed to fit other housing organization needs.

1.  Need a place to hang the zillion games or some other items? This simple closet storage unit is versatile and not very expensive. (I found some at WalMart.)
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2. Try using clear storage boxes with homemade labels to help organize all of your baby’s needs!
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3. This is a suggestion on how to use your nursery’s closet space.
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4. If you don’t have an ideal closet setup, try these hanging closet organizers to give your closet more storage space!
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5.  Don’t forget to think outside the box! One mom used peg board to help organize her baby’s needs.
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6. If you don’t have a large nursery or if you need to share a space with the nursery, consider converting the closet into storage area and the changing area. (This idea is a personal favorite.)
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7. Here is another idea of how to combine shelving units with your nursery closet.
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8. Worried about making noise as you open and close the nursery room door? Try this simple solution!
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9. Need help organizing the diaper changing drawers? This idea seems to work!
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10. If you don’t have a closet to use but really need a closet in your nursery, try getting a bookcase!
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11. Do you want your diaper station on-the-go? Try something with wheels!
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12. Have you found yourself staring at the back of the nursery door and wonder what it could be used for? Even if you haven’t, here is a great organizing idea that uses a simple shoe organizer (again, I found some at WalMart).
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13. Did you ever realize how many kitchen items babies need? I didn’t. Here is a great idea to help organize the kitchen chaos.
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I hope these organizing ideas help you in your planning and executing! I know they have helped me. Good luck with your nursery needs! And, remember, have fun with it!
— Lexi Foster, Blog Writer, Stance

Parenting Advice

As a parent to be, I tend to think about parenting advice and mentally collect my favorites for my future parenting needs. One of my recent favorites is a picture my husband told me about.











This picture was very inspirational to my husband and me. We then had a long discussion on what type of parents we want to be. So, my advice is to think about and discuss parenting techniques and ideas and decide which ones you will keep and which others you will forget.

Want some more advice to think about? Here is some of my favorite parenting advice from an online article I found:

1. Memorize the acronym H.A.L.T.

Tantrums often happen because the thrower is Hungry, Agitated, Lonely, or Tired.

2. Repeat the phrase, “I am not a short-order cook”

“It’s a child’s job to learn to eat what the parents eat,” says Ellyn Satter, a registered dietitian and the author of Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family. Instead of the all-or-nothing scenario, offer a variety of foods at mealtime: the main course, plus rice or pasta, a fruit or vegetable, and milk. This way, your child can eat just the pasta and the peas and get protein from the milk. “What a child eats over the course of a day or a week is more important than a balanced meal at one sitting,” says Stephen Daniels, the chairman of the department of pediatrics at the University of Colorado School of Medicine, in Aurora.

3. To get little kids to be quiet, lower your voice instead of raising it

This forces kids to focus. Got a whole pack to corral? Whisper, “If you want to hear what we’re doing next, hop on one foot.” Goofy jumping is bound to be contagious.

4. Put on  your own oxygen mask first

In other words, take care of yourself or you can’t be a fully engaged parent. Parents who deprive themselves of rest, food, and fun for the sake of their kids do no one a favor. “People feel guilty when they work a lot, so they want to give all their free time to their kids,” says Fred Stocker, a child psychiatrist at the University of Louisville School of Medicine, in Kentucky. “But you risk getting squeezed dry and emotionally exhausted.” A spa weekend may not be realistic, but it’s OK to take 15 minutes for a bath after you walk in the door. (A tall request for a kid, yes, but a happier Uno player goes a long way.) Running ragged between activities? Ask your child to prioritize, says Taylor. She may be dying for you to chaperone a field trip but ambivalent about your missing a swim meet—the ideal amount of time for a pedicure.

There is so much parenting advice available to people. I have learned that parenting decisions are truly a personal decision. What works for one person might not work for another. However, gathering advice and then contemplating it and possibly implementing it will help make parenting a little easier. At least, that is what I am hoping for since I don’t have legitimate parenting experience quite yet. Good luck and have fun with your parenting adventures!

—Lexi Foster, Assistant Managing Editor, Stance

Food Poisoning

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What do street tacos, Chinese take-out, and contaminated food have in common? All three are capable of causing food poisoning. Symptoms of food poisoning include nausea, cramping, diarrhea, and vomiting.

If you suspect that the food poisoning is a result of seafood or mushrooms, call 911 immediately. If you aren’t sure what the cause of the food poisoning is, adhere to the following rules:

  1. Control the nausea. Avoid solid foods until vomiting has ceased and then eat bland foods. Stick to the BRAT (bananas, rice, applesauce, and toast) diet. Don’t take anti-diarrheal medication because it might cause more stomach irritation than it fixes.
  2. Stay hydrated. Avoiding dehydration is vital to recovering quickly. Clear liquids should be sipped regularly.
  3. Call a doctor if the symptoms last for longer than three days, a fever sets on, diarrhea becomes worse, or dehydration does not resolve.

—Frances Avery, Editor, Stance

Entertaining Kids on a Budget

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There’s a sad fact of life that everyone has to learn eventually: doing awesome things can cost a lot of money. The good news is that kids usually don’t care how much it costs to do something fun. For example, most children can be just as happy visiting a free playground as they would be doing something much more expensive and involved, especially when they’re young. The other benefit to simple entertainment options is that they involve less standing in line, less being “on your best behavior” for kids who have a hard time staying still, and less stress for the rest of the family overall. The important thing is to spend time on the things that kids enjoy, not how hard it was for us to plan and carry out the activity.

With that in mind, here are some ideas for cheap or free activities to do with young children that will be more fun and less money for everyone:

  • Rent or borrow a new movie: Most families end up having a few well-worn movies that the kids love to watch, but it’s always nice for everyone to have a fresh story to enjoy. Instead of paying to go to the theater and getting pressured into buying that $4 tub of popcorn, try renting or streaming a kid’s video at home and setting up your own “home theater” (trust me, the popcorn from the grocery store can be just as good). Almost everything about this is more convenient than actually going to a movie theater.
  • Family picnic: Next time you think how nice it’d be to go to McDonalds and get the kids some food and run-around-time, I’d suggest first that you stop and think seriously about all of the better places you could get food. Second, try using what you have at home and setting up a fun outdoor picnic lunch for the kids, either in your backyard or somewhere close by like a neighborhood park. It doesn’t even have to be outdoors! Kids love novelty.
    • If picnics aren’t your thing, or if you have slightly older kids, try baking or barbecuing together instead of visiting a restaurant.
  • Set up a treasure hunt! It can be a simple map, a series of clues, or anything else that will lead them around the house and/or the yard to find some kind of “treasure.” It can be almost anything; in my family, my younger siblings loved doing this even when the treasure ended up being just a toy that they already owned. It’s the experience that’s the fun part!

Not only are these ideas less stressful for the parents, but they can also be helpful for children. There are some fun things that you can’t do at home and have to pay for, and I’m sure that everyone will want to do those every now and then, but showing children that it’s important to think about the cost of activities first will help them have better habits in the future with their own personal finances.


—Sam Watson, Editor, Stance

Sleep and Pregnancy Pillows

pillow pilePregnant women struggle to get enough sleep, especially when they are in the third trimester. Most articles say sleep is illusive because pregnant women’s bellies are so big that a comfortable sleeping position is difficult to find. I didn’t think this applied to me because I was getting great sleep at night. But then week 27 hit and suddenly I was tired all the time and couldn’t sleep well anymore.

After I woke up several mornings feeling more like a zombie than a human being, my husband and I decided it was time to invest in a pregnancy pillow. However, I needed to do my homework. I needed to find out what pillows were offered and what type would fit me best. I found an article here that helped me decide which pillows to choose.

After researching different options—wedge pregnancy pillows, c-shaped pregnancy pillows, u-shaped pregnancy pillows, and full body pillows—I finally decided on two types. I chose a round wedge pregnancy pillow for something small and useful in every day life and in travel and a u-shaped pregnancy pillow for ultimate comfort, support, and luxury.

Pregnancy pillows can be expensive, but they are worth the investment! Since getting the pillow, especially the u-shaped one, I have been sleeping better than I was before I was pregnant. My husband also sleeps better because I no longer toss and turn throughout the night. If you can only invest in one pillow, I recommend going all out and getting the u-shaped pillow. You will get the most benefits from it and it will last you for many years, even through future pregnancies.

Enjoy your future nights of restful sleep!

—Lexi Foster, Managing Assistant Editor, Stance

The Covey Center for the Arts

While it may seem that you have to travel to Salt Lake City for any professional play, ballet, or production, Provo has an arts center of its own! The Covey Center of the Arts is a wonderful place for anyone in Utah County to see professional, well-done performances.

A125-00036Located in the heart of Provo, the Covey Center is just off the corner of State Street and Center Street. The center houses two theaters: one small black box theater and one large, amphitheater-style theater. The black box theater hosts 6-8 theater performances every year. These performances are smaller and often more interactive.

The large theater hosts numerous performances ranging from ballet groups, dancing companies, and drama performances to acrobatic exhibits, stand-up comedy acts, and symphony performances.

One of the best things about the Covey Center for the Arts is that it offers a professional performance and feeling for an affordable price. Ballet tickets in Salt Lake City can often cost upwards of $50. But tickets for this year’s Nutcracker performance at the Covey Center are only $15 for the best seats in the house.

NutcrackerThe Covey Center also offers a unique alternative date night activity. Tickets to the regular theater performances are often comparable in price with movie tickets. A drama performance could be a wonderful alternative to a regular date night activity.



More information about the Covey Center for the Arts can be found here.

A list of upcoming performances can be found here.

—Jessica Romrell, Editor-in-Chief, Stance

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